“For as long as I remember, I thought of myself as not being good enough and considering myself a failure. I always justified successes, personal and professional, to be the result of chance. Graham worked with me to understand that ‘I am who I am’, and that I am responsible for what happened to me. If I am successful it is because I worked for it and I deserve it.
Because of my work with Graham, I also understood, and embraced, that I am a compassionate being, and this compassion helps me to be a better leader, husband and father. For all these years I thought of it as a weakness, I now understand it is my biggest strength! Leveraging on this new understanding of myself, I was able to secure a promotion in a matter of months, something that had been eluding me for some time.
Because of my work with Graham, I understood that my boss’ lack of trust in myself, and everybody else, was not because of something I did, or did not, do! Graham’s coaching enabled me to summon the courage to change position within the organisation as soon as possible, and my quality of life immediately improved.
This is just the tip of my coaching iceberg . Because of my work with Graham, I was able to connect with myself in ways I did not know was possible. I was able to understand my values and what I stand for. This significantly helped me better map my life’s expedition. I awoke to something more than I ever thought possible, it was a true breakthrough for me.” ~DP, Director, BNP Paribas, Singapore
“My work with Graham changed my life. I worked with Graham first as my life coach, then as my psychotherapist whilst in the midst of a breakdown, as I needed the containment of a more therapeutic approach. As an expat child I grew up in Singapore, this was the first major transition in my life and it was not easy. I went back and forth from the UK to Singapore over time and then stayed in Asia working on a remote Island location as a resort manager. My time managing that resort was coming to an end, I was away from family and friends, in a part of the world I knew well but with very little support. I knew I would need help during that transition and I approached Graham for life coaching. He gave me exactly what I needed; a safe, non-judgmental, supportive environment to explore what I needed to shift, what I wanted to achieve and what I wanted to let go of. Through our work I found the courage to end an emotionally abusive relationship, pass my driving test, find a new job, quit that job and move back to the UK.
It was then I lost control of my life and had a breakdown. It was all a lot of change in a very small amount of time and my world was spiralling away from me. Graham changed his way of working with me and created a powerful container for me to heal. I spoke to Graham daily during my lowest moments. I contemplated suicide, but with Graham on the other end of the phone, WhatsApp, emails and our regular Skype sessions, I got through it.
Graham is honest, he has a no bullshit approach and he tells you how it is. He knew what I needed and when I needed it. I worked with Graham for almost two years and he will be my coach for life. I am grateful to Graham for allowing, and encouraging, me to see my full potential. I have recently qualified as a Yoga Teacher, which took me to India for my training, and now my life continues to move upwards. I have a hefty tool box that Graham has given me and I return to it as I need it, when the low days arrive, but I’m not scared to fully live anymore. I’m not scared to be me. Through stripping back the layers with Graham, visiting some of the shadowy past, and facing myself head on I have grown emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I am achieving things I never thought possible; I’m in a loving relationship, with someone who treats me very well, and I am continuing my self-development journey all of the time.
Who knows what the future holds, but I feel ready for it.” ~CA, Yoga Teacher, UK
“I am currently the conductor and Music Director of a large symphony orchestra in the United States and work additionally as guest conductor internationally. I have been working with Graham Kean for three years.
Graham’s insight has been central to my success, and more importantly has helped me process earlier difficult and traumatic events. At the start of every session I seem to have thoughts and feelings lying at the edge of my perception that I can’t quite nail down; without exception by the end of our conversation Graham has helped me to identify, process and put these thoughts and emotions into context and helped me to build a positive way forward.
He has helped my fulfill lifelong goals by unblocking some of the barriers that I have put in my own way and helped me to be happier and more conscious.
I would recommend Graham to anyone seeking to find greater fulfillment, happiness and success.” ~JL, Conductor and Music Director, Europe and USA.
“I was introduced to Graham by an ex-colleague who knew that I had been struggling with self-esteem issues for a long time, which was affecting me personally and professionally. To an outsider, it looked like I had it made; I am a homeowner, I have a job in a multi-national company that affords a certain lifestyle and I was seemingly confident.
Yet I knew that I wasn’t very happy in my career, I was insecure and self-sabotaging and never able to be myself or identify my needs, let alone articulate them. That’s who I was when I started working with Graham. We spent a good six to nine months uncovering what was really at the heart of my issues; what was causing me to take actions that weren’t in my best interests?
We went back to my childhood, my teenage years and working life to explore what led to who I am today – what is my vicious cycle meaning – and from there, created a new meaning to take actions from and slowly step into becoming the person I would like to be. It hasn’t been easy to stay the course, especially since I was going through some personal and professional challenges. This transformation takes a lot of consideration, constant awareness of staying awake to the vicious cycle and making sure I don’t self-sabotage.
I’m still in the process of coaching, it has been almost a year now. The changes I have seen so far have definitely been powerful and opened me to vulnerability, which has facilitated creativity and a new level of self-esteem. Being open with the people around me on what my needs are and seeking clarity have been key to make changes in my life. It has also made me a more empathetic person and unafraid to say “me too”. As a leader I have developed a new and exciting confidence that has supported me in my career. I haven’t always enjoyed all the changes that I’ve had to make, but all the changes have helped me embark on a journey to live a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
That journey continues, being in coaching with Graham is the best decision I could have ever made, a very good investment.” ~CL, Senior Manager, TripAdvisor, Singapore.
“I have worked with Graham and found him after some considerable time searching for the right person. The area he works in is a very personal one where it is essential that you have the right degree of chemistry and confidence in your coach – and that was the single driving factor in my making the decision to work with him.
My experience of working with him was entirely positive – knowing that I was not the usual candidate he might work with being rather older than most. His sessions with me built steadily on well thought through tools and techniques and gave me the confidence and direction I was lacking in a way that was entirely empathetic. He achieved a significant and profound change in my personal situation and I have nothing but praise and thanks for his work.
I am sure many fellow Singaporeans would benefit immediately from his skills, experience and personal approach.” ~Nigel, Business Director, Singapore.
“I found Graham when I was completely lost. We had moved to Singapore for my husband’s job and I had a lot of plans to use the, more than welcome, break from my job to find something I really wanted to do. I am a chemist, but had been searching for the ‘right’ job in various fields for a couple of years already, always ending up disappointed and frustrated. In Singapore what I discovered instead of ideas and options was frightening emptiness. I found that I did not have a clue who I was – or wanted to be – at all. I had no idea what I wanted to try out, even what I might be interested in. I was sad, tired and demotivated. I hurled myself into activities, tried psychotherapy and, as a last attempt, contacted Graham for career coaching – maybe I just needed to find a new job to get out of the misery?
Well, Graham’s coaching quickly turned out to be the most helpful ‘therapy’ I have ever had! After only a couple of sessions I quit psychotherapy with the therapist I had been seeing for a month. Graham started finding the root causes for my unhappiness and behaviours. It felt like a very systematic approach to me, one step after another and Graham always made sure that we really nailed down the essence of each step. It was amazing how I suddenly felt like I was actually moving forward!
I have never experienced anything like that in any coaching or psychotherapy before. Graham helped me understand my vicious cycle – the ‘meaning’ I created from my past experiences – which made me act the way I did and influenced my decisions. As soon as I was aware of what was going on my ‘new meaning’ slowly unfolded. I suddenly felt connected to myself again, felt more energetic and really motivated to reinvent myself. It took a while to get there and it involved a lot of homework, tears of frustration and helplessness, but also so many revelations and pure joy. It’s nothing you can hurry, as Graham said, but he guided me there always confident, reassuring and supportive. During the 5 months of coaching we talked through ‘sub-personalities’, ‘values’, ‘purpose’ and my ‘true-self’. I am not sure when I last felt so much self-awareness, I felt like my self again and I’m just at the beginning of this wonderful journey!
Thank you so much for doing what you do, and being who you are, Graham!” ~Annika, Ph.D. Currently Expat Wife, from Germany, Living in Singapore.
“After leaving my husband, losing my grandmother, my house sale & purchase falling through, relocating my business and moving back to my mother’s house – all within 10 days, I had no idea who to turn to. I was in pieces and an anxious wreak.
Luckily a good friend had told me about her experience with Graham Kean and had given me his details a few months previously. So when this breaking point in my life happened I had no choice but to reach out and I am so glad I did.
After my coaching sessions with Graham I understand myself better in different ways; I have more control of myself and the way I feel and act. I am so much more aware. I most importantly have so much more self-worth and confidence, something I lacked in terribly.
I cannot recommend Graham enough, I wouldn’t know where to start with thanking him for all his time invested in me. I am not sure where I would be right now if I didn’t have his help and guidance.” ~Roselle, Business Owner, Cambridgeshire, England, UK.
“It was some time back in August, 2018 when I felt really hopeless; I was literally lost. I did not know where I wanted to go, what I wanted to do or who I wanted to be. I did not know how I decide what is best for me and when should I make that decision. There was so much that I think I needed to ‘fix’ that I decided to get myself a Career Coaching experience with Graham Kean. My initial target was to get myself ‘fixed’ and as we moved through the different sessions I slowly came to realise, with the guidance of Graham, that there was so much pressure that came from within me and from the least expected outside sources, which I never even suspected.
The coaching helped me realise that I could put the right energy and focus on other alternatives rather than staying in my comfort zone, which deterred my progress. Graham helped guide me to reflect on my qualities, be self-reliant and to take charge of the situation by being aware of my limiting beliefs. He showed me how I could prepare myself everyday to be a winner.
The outcome from the sessions made me realise that it was never about changing myself, it was essentially about becoming more me, discovering who I am meant to be. It was a powerful journey that went way beyond just my career, it was about making the best of who I can be using the qualities that are uniquely ME. We can ultimately be our own ‘X Factor’ and market ourselves properly to be recognised for what we have to offer the world. I will continue to believe in myself. I am really happy that Graham took me into his coaching practice and worked with me, it certainly was a good learning experience.
Thank you so much Graham.” ~Ms. J, Head of Sales, Malaysian, living in Kuala Lumpur.
“Turning 40 is a milestone that gets some people to reassess their lives. In my case, by most standards, it was all great: lovely family, good friends, nice career, healthy body… One could hardly ask for more to be happy, and yet something deep inside did not allow that happiness to flow. I had approached a life coach sometime before who suggested that it all seemed to be going pretty well and that there was little room to deliver a transformation for me. The fact is that something was still off. It was not a big glaring issue, but I knew something was not right. This is how I came to contact Graham Kean for a second opinion. As I later found out, Graham does not just look at addressing the symptoms, which in my case were minimal. Instead, he is very focused on digging deep and getting to the root causes of what is holding someone back. Once that gets fixed, the rest flows by itself.
During the 3 months of coaching I had with Graham, I was able to take the time to look into myself and know myself a lot better. It was emotional at times. I was guided to ask myself many questions and discovered eye opening answers and distinctions. We all carry some emotional baggage from the past that plays on our minds, whether we are conscious of it or not. Graham calls this the Vicious Cycle. Once you identify this cycle clearly and learn to deal with it, you can free yourself from it and achieve higher levels of harmony and serenity.
Developing my list of ‘core values’ was another life changing experience. I would never have put so much time, thought and energy into it, had it not been for Graham’s powerful coaching process. I still remember feeling very happy with myself about the first list of values I had elaborated. Graham warned me that he would question each and every one of them and that it was going to be painful. After that first review, I felt destroyed. The reality is that the values I had come up with in my first attempt were not really core values, they were duties and obligations. They didn’t nourish my soul, they were a weight I carried around. Seven revisions later, I had decluttered five crystal clear values that truly reflected my soul. They are now the guiding values by which I measure my success. This is a transformation that will stay with me for many years to come.
I highly recommend Graham as a Life Coach to anyone who wants to live a happier, more meaningful life, aligned with who he/she is at the core.” ~Denis M, European Expat, APAC Sales Manager for a manufacturer of custom engineered technical products, based in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
“I started seeing Graham earlier this year as I was struggling to deal with anger issues which were threatening my relationship with my partner. I knew my reactions were not proportional but I couldn’t see a way out of them and they were happening more and more regularly. The year before I had lost a family member and I hadn’t really dealt with the grief, instead it was ambushing me and hiding in my daily reactions.
Through my time with Graham, I was able to recognise more readily the sources of my anger but more importantly reduce the occurrences of the anger in the first place. I still have work to do but in general I am a lot calmer, a lot more ‘me’ more of the time. I also have a better grasp of my own feelings which previously I had really struggled to identify. I still have tough days, I still have the occasional angry burst, but due to my time with Graham I can work through these episodes more quickly than I would have before.
I know doing the sessions with Graham has changed my life for the better.” ~Expat Female, 34, Production Manager, Malaysia.
“Graham Kean has been coaching me for almost a year. I can honestly say that I have experienced a major shift at the deepest level of how I feel about myself, and thus, in the choices I make and the happiness I feel. I have always had a deep-rooted feeling of being under serving or lesser than other people. This force has been destructive in so many ways, for example; in self-sabotaging things I’ve worked so hard for and wanted so badly.
With Graham’s excellent coaching ability helping me get to the root of my issues, I have literally let go of the darkest shadows that have defined me my whole life. Only now can I see what a huge emotional weight I have been carrying around. I’ve never felt this light and peaceful in my life. I am now more authentic, happier, and for the first time I am feeling unconditional love for, and trust in, myself.
This is quite incredible to me because in all my adult life I have attempted many times to rid myself of these dark shadows through therapy, reading, seminars, workshops and other forms of help, this ‘re-birth’ has only happened through his coaching. Graham was totally committed, caring and skilled.
If you decide to have coaching, I strongly recommend Graham Kean.” ~Entrepreneur, Career Woman and Single Mother, Singapore.
“I have just completed my first experience working with a Life Coach. It was so much more than I had expected and I wish I had done it ages ago. It very much transformed the way I’ve thought about, and managed, some critical areas of my life.
Graham is a Master Life Coach and coached professionally in the UK for decades. He’s based in Johor Bahru, Malaysia for now! You can see him in person or via Skype. He has clients worldwide.
I very highly recommend Graham if there is something in your life that has been preventing you from moving forward. He expects a strong commitment and he gives back in every way.” ~Expat Female, Communication Trainer, Singapore & Malaysia.
“I first met Graham at a workshop he delivered for the ‘International Women’s Association’ (IWA) in Johor Bahru, Malaysia, but first a little background on me: I have been an expat for more than 23 years, travelling around the world with my husband and 2 children. A couple of years back our last child left for University and the “empty nest” really hit me hard, and I felt quite alone during the long days by myself.
In general I have a hard time approaching people I don’t know, something that came much easier to me earlier in life, as being a parent meant meeting other parents when picking up the kids from school, etc. So during the long days in the first months in Malaysia I started thinking; why is it so hard for me? Why is it that I just can’t go to the tennis club and start playing like other’s can? So, back to Graham….
During the workshop with Graham, and the IWA, he asked us do a series of exercises which involved sharing about ourselves in the group. One was to share your strengths and weaknesses. For some it seemed very easy to list strengths, and more difficult finding, and talking about, their weaknesses. It was, however, the other way around for me. Several other exercises left me with the same picture of myself. Once at home, and thinking about what I had experienced, I came to the conclusion that the problems I was experiencing could be associated with low self-esteem.
So, after spending a couple of days building sufficient courage, I contacted Graham. He had impacted me in the workshop, and I felt that his coaching could help me with my situation. I signed up for 16 sessions, face to face.
Working with Graham has been such a positive experience:
- He helped me to rediscover my strengths.
- Deal with my weaknesses, making me realise that some of what I saw as weaknesses were actually strengths.
- I was, when we started the sessions, what many would categorise as “a pleaser”. Something that didn’t do me a lot of good, as I didn’t get a lot in return. Worse was that I did not see this. I did not realise that I was setting my own desires aside to please others.
- Graham helped me realise that there needs to be a balance in giving and receiving. He helped me see the situations where it occurs most and he taught me that it is perfectly OK to say: “No thank you, I have something else planned.” Something I struggled with before the coaching.
- Graham helped me think about things, directed me, asked me the right questions and allowed me to eventually come up with the answers. Always making it my solution, making me the owner, and more importantly making the solution be one that was in balance with me, my personality and my values.
I warmly recommend Graham. He made a real difference for me during my time in Malaysia, and now, 3 months into my next “adventure” in Costa Rica, his work with me is still making a difference. For what it’s worth, he will always be my life coach.” ~Jannie Uglvig, Expat Wife (Danish of birth). Living in Costa Rica.
“Before I started my journey with Graham I’d been through several months of significant changes in my life ranging from the bereavements of two close family members, moving house (twice), and a complex work project. Individually I would have worked through each of these, but combined they created a significant demand on my attention and time. I realised that it was extremely important for me to focus some time on me, and get things back in order, so contacted Graham for some expert advice and guidance.
Graham provided the appropriate support as the coaching progressed. This ranged from tools to help provide clarity, perspective and relieve night-time worries, through to enabling self-awareness and ultimately self-management of behaviour drivers such as sub-personalities, and vicious cycle.
Through Graham’s careful coaching and mentoring I feel able to use my new self-knowledge and awareness to my advantage. I have a clear future vision, and understand the key activities and steps that need to be in place to make that vision a reality, as well as techniques for the early identification and management of potential pitfalls.
Working with Graham has been a very positive experience, and I always left each session feeling upbeat and optimistic. Graham has great insight and humour, and his questions can be challenging to answer – but the maximum benefit is only derived if you invest the time in yourself and are open and honest with your answers.
I heartily recommend Graham as a Master Coach to anyone who is going through times of change, or wants to make and achieve changes in their own lives.
Thank you Graham, it’s been a pleasure working with you.” ~Peter Tanner, Head of Supply Chain Advancement – Merck Life Sciences, UK.
“I am so excited to tell anyone that has ever thought about online Skype coaching with Graham Kean that it will be the best decision you’ll ever make for yourself! I began working with Graham as my Life Coach last year. It’s one of the best and most important decisions I’ve ever made. As a coach, Graham offers support with positive insightful suggestions to help me think about what I really want in life and how to proceed on my journey.
Graham is kind and compassionate; helping you find the answers to your questions. I had no idea how this process would change my world. I highly recommend him!
Life Mastery by Graham Kean is his wonderful Facebook page that offers uplifting inspirational wisdom. It has always inspired me to think about life and in some cases helped me find answers to life issues through Graham’s thought provoking posts. His coaching is his page in action!
So far so good. THANK YOU SO MUCH!” ~Joy, Laurel, Mississippi, USA.
“We want to acknowledge one of our senior trainers: Graham Kean. Graham has been involved with Youth at Risk (now Grit) since the very beginning as a volunteer, member of staff and now as a highly-skilled trainer. He has delivered transformational training to thousands of young people and adults as well as creating, and designing, one of our longest-standing programmes in Knowsley, working to support people into employment.
Graham has been instrumental in delivering our recent Barnet Mentors programme as well as our Sunderland Carers programme and we know he has been taken into the hearts of many participants across the UK. I have always particularly admired Graham’s honesty, courage, insight and humour – he has a lovely ability to connect with anyone whilst staying authentic to himself – not an easy quality to maintain.
Graham is now embarking on a new adventure in Asia, we will miss him sorely but he will remain always in the Youth at Risk (Grit) heart. From all of us …. Staff, trainers, volunteers and young people…THANK YOU.” ~Ellie Garraway, Chief Executive Officer – Grit: breakthrough programmes, UK.
“Dear Graham. Throughout our coaching sessions, you have helped me to discover many of my strengths, weaknesses and certain unconscious sabotaging patterns, and taught me ways to release them by giving me new perspectives.
This experience has given me positive results in my ability to become more fully self-expressed, have greater clarity, and discernment, which is helping me to evolve, be in alignment with my values and true essence.
At this point anything is possible for me, I will continue to effectively apply this knowledge that can only result in better health, fulfillment, empowering authentic relationships, and success within my business.Thank you”. ~Maria Defillo, Insurance Consultant – Defillo Insurance Services, Miami, Florida, USA.
“Dear Graham. I wanted to write something publicly and as my time is limited, I go on my own travels to South Africa on Wednesday, I thought I would do it now. Even though it is not goodbye forever, no doubt we will keep in touch, I just want to say; 17 years ago when I first met you on a ‘Youth at Risk’ Programme in Buckinghamshire a lot of people had given up on me, at times, including myself. Over the years you have been someone who I look up to and have always been able to turn to when things didn’t seem as if they were making sense and your words, albeit not all the time you thought I listened, set me in good stead.
Thank you very much for all your support over the years and thank you for having a massive impact on my life. Big Hugs and all the best for the upcoming new chapter in your life. Gary.” ~Gary Topley, Alcohol Awareness Specialist, UK.
“Graham was recommended to me as a very experienced and empathetic coach to support me with a very specific personal challenge. We worked together for a period of six months. During this time he was able to bring the new perspective that I was looking for. His direct style, his openness, experience and curiosity were a great support, yet sufficiently challenging to make me rethink some of my views and patterns.
I found Graham to be very knowledgeable, passionate about his work yet always deeply caring to ensure a rewarding transformational experience.
I very much enjoyed working with Graham and can highly recommend him for your transformational journey.” ~Steffen Raetzer, Managing Director – Positive Energy Buildings SA, Geneva Area, Switzerland.
“I‘ve commissioned Graham to work with long term unemployed adults on many occasions over the last 12 years. He is much more than a highly skilled coach and trainer! He has a unique way of engaging with people, and is highly focused on supporting them to realise their goals through overcoming often deep-seated barriers.
He is fun, dynamic, professional, highly effective and a real asset to anyone. Go hire him!” ~Tracy Fishwick OBE, MD Transform Lives Co; Chair Groundwork CLM; Director, People’s Powerhouse CIC
“Graham was one of the people who inspired me to become a coach myself. I was lucky enough to have Graham as my coach and trainer. He is a natural coach, deeply empathetic and sensitive to client needs. He is also a strong leader who questions deeply, challenges appropriately and is extremely intuitive and perceptive. Anyone who works with Graham is bound to make amazing breakthroughs.
I recommend Graham as a coach, trainer and facilitator wholeheartedly” ~Alison Davis MA, CV CC, IAC MMC, Coach & Facilitator – Positive Energy Coaching, South of France.
“I have worked with Graham to deliver a ‘Coaching for Success’ schools programme and I have also attended other training days with Graham. Graham is highly experienced in his field, he has no problems in holding and engaging a large group, his approach is thorough and spontaneous allowing the participants to engage and explore freely and at the same time keeping control and maintaining clear boundaries.
Graham’s sincerity and warmth shines through which is why he produces such great results!” ~I-Lan Hamilton, Personal Performance Life Coach and Personal Development Trainer, UK.
“Graham has a ‘Bifocal’ context, impressive and intuitive professional & theraputic skills built upon a really good heart and a passion for people” ~Roger Evans, Co-Founder & Director – The Institute Of Psychosynthesis, London, UK.
“Graham is a real talent both as a coach and a trainer. Youth at Risk (now Grit: breakthrough programmes) is a national provider of high quality transformational work with young people, and those who support them, in this context I can testify to Graham’s consistent excellence.
I have no hesitation in recommending him. Be prepared for a dynamic passionate professional to engage in either group or individual transformation. Graham delivers and gets results through his skill and belief in human potential” ~Neil Wragg MBE, Chief Executive (Retired) – Grit: breakthrough programmes, UK.
“Graham is an extraordinarily gifted trainer and coach. His unique talent is supported by his ability to blend light hearted humour, with clarity of purpose, passionate enthusiasm, tempered with a well honed trainer tool kit, that, when combined, makes for an inspiring leader who has the capability of reaching the hearts and minds of participants, calling them out to emerge more powerful and confident than they previously experienced themselves to be.
Graham is always a delight to work with, a rare and invaluable resource and an approachable and trusted facilitation partner” ~Jeannie Horsfield, Managing Director – Stepping Stones UK.
“I love working with Graham. It is rare to find a trainer and coach so genuinely committed to the personal development and happiness of others. I’ve thought a great deal about the possible secrets of his success. And for me it is rooted in a simple but powerful principle: he always brings the whole of himself to work…passionate, knowledgeable, insightful, and fun.
All these qualities, and many more, make learning and working with Graham: a rewarding, challenging and transformational experience. It doesn’t get better than that” ~Janeena Sims, Director – Park Sims Associates, UK.
“With a unique style and ability to connect with the people he works with, Graham is the best coach that I have had the pleasure of working with. He has the ability to impact the challenging aspects of a person’s life without compromising and yielding to confrontation. Where other coaches may stop, having reached their own limitations, Graham continues to guide and support. This is achieved whilst still maintaining respect, compassion and commitment to the personal transformation of everyone he works with.
Combine this with the other skills and qualifications that Graham possesses and you have a formidable and valuable asset who has significant impact on people from all backgrounds, from private or public sectors” ~Paul Green, Business Expert & Author – NN coNNect, UK.